Do you really think it could be right to date a married man?  I would love to hear your reasons.  Have you thought about them?  Here are some things to ponder when you consider whether or not it is right to date that married man.

1.  Pretend you were married.  How would you feel if some other woman was dating your husband, a married man? If you ever found out, there would be a huge lack of trust between you and your husband and probably a great deal of hatred between you and the woman who is dating the married man.  Lack of trust and great deal of hatred are not good things.

2.  What is it in this married man you want to date that you can’t find in another, unmarried, man? Some women just want and adventure and sneaking around behind some poor woman’s back while dating her husband will give them that fix.  There are other ways to find excitement in life than dating a married man.

3.  Have you thought about the fact that if you ended up breaking up this man’s marriage and marrying him yourself that he might do the exact same thing to you? People are creatures of habit, and I sure wouldn’t want to be dating a married man if he had the habit of cheating.  You might say he’d never do it to you, but his wife probably said that, too.  Don’t lose your logic in your love.

I would encourage you to write a list of pros and cons to dating this married man.  If you are afraid someone might see your list, that is probably a clear indication that you should not date a married man.  Please think through all of the consequences of your action before you make it!

The word fight can mean many different things to many different people.  Some people view fighting merely as the physical acts of violence.  Others consider yelling fighting.  Still others even refer to a discussion where people disagree as a fight.

People also have different rationales for their fights.  Some people are just trying to stand up for themselves.  Others are standing up for other people.  Still others fight just to fight.

In order to fully grasp the depth of this question and to decide for yourself whether or not you should fight, ask yourself the following questions:

1.  Why would I be fighting? You may feel justified if you are being wronged in some way.  You may prefer, however, to kill your opponent with kindness rather than fighting.

2.  Is this fight worth the consequences it may bring about? Physical violence can bring about really harsh consequences.  It can even send you to jail.  A verbal spat with a lover, however, will have much different consequences.  Think about both yourself and the person with whom you would be fighting when you decide if it is worth it.

3.  Can I handle it if i lose this fight? You may think that you will definitely win a fight, but you have to remember there is always a loser.  It could be you.  Even if you don’t expect it to be.  Make sure you can handle the embarrassment or shame associated with losing a fight.

Some options that can resolve conflict without fighting are killing the other person with kindness, turning the other cheek, or having a mature discussion about the matter at hand. You may need to remove yourself from the situation for a while to cool down before you tackle the matter over which you want to fight.

Sometimes it is right to break up.  Breaking up sucks.  It often hurts both parties involved, but sometimes it needs to be done. There are three questions to ask yourself when contemplating breaking up with your significant other.

1.  In light of your past experiences, would breaking up be a wise decision? If something has happened in the past, say your significant other cheated on you, it may be right to break up.  If you see a tendency in your past to cling to people of ill repute, and you start to notice those trends again, it may be right to break up.

2.  In light of your current circumstances, would breaking up be a wise decision? Think about how things are currently going in your relationship.  Are you feeling loved and appreciated?  Are you being abused verbally, physically, or otherwise?  If your relationship is currently unhealthy, it might be right to break up.

3.  In light of your future hopes and dreams, would breaking up be a wise decision? If you can’t picture your future with your significant other as a positive experience, it may be right to break up.  Are your future hopes and dreams similar to your significant other’s hopes and dreams?  If you are headed in two completely different directions in life, it may be time.

It never hurts to get a second opinion on whether or not you should break up with your significant other.  Outsiders often have a better perspective than insiders in relationships.  While it sucks to break up, sometimes it is the healthiest thing to do, and life does go on!

Honesty is the best policy.  There are several reasons not to lie.

1.  Lying brings about more lies. One lie can easily turn into ten more lies.  The more lies you tell, the harder it is to keep track of the lies and the more easily you can get caught in a lie.  You will look foolish and then even more so if you try to cover up a lie you get caught in.

2.  Lying breaks trust. Trust is a crucial part of any relationship, be it with your boyfriend, your parents, or your best friend.  Even one lie breaks that trust.  How would you feel if your boyfriend or best friend lied to you?  Sometimes the truth hurts, but it’s better to face the facts than to make them up.

3.  Lying hurts people. Telling a lie about a person defames them to anyone who hears that lie.  Surely you can think of a time when someone lied about you and it hurt.  Why would you want to do that to another person?  You may think right now that hurting another person is a good idea, but think about that logically.  Would you want anyone to hurt you?  Not even your worst enemy?  I didn’t think so.

Lies almost always hurt more than honesty.  Fess up!  You’re more likely to get in trouble for lying than for just repeating the facts.

There are several things to consider before you decide to ask a guy out.  Guys are hardwired to want to be dominant and asking them out may make them feel inferior to you.  It is a blow to his ego to be asked out by a girl.  While it may seem exciting to him in the spur of the moment, chances are in the long run he would have rather asked you out.  It is much more fun for girls to be pursued than to pursue a guy.  Don’t worry if you are not constantly being pursued.  Patience is key.  A guy that is really into you will definitely pursue you, and you will probably both be happier with the outcome if you let him ask you out.  If he’s just not that into you, asking him out will do no good anyway.  He will likely say no.

It is true that some guys wouldn’t mind if a girl asked him out, but these guys lack the guts to ask out a girl, and do you really want to date a guy who can’t even muster up the courage to ask you out?  A good, strong man is hard to find, but is definitely worth the wait.  If you are meant to be together, you will end up together.  You don’t need to take matters into your own hands.  Guys like to have control, and asking him out puts the control in your hands making him feel like less of man.

When contemplating judging another person, think about how you would feel in that person’s position.

1.  What rights do you have to judge others? Only if you are completely faultless do you have the right to judge another person.  Nobody is perfect, so there is no reason to judge others when you are no better than they are.

2.  Why do you want to judge others? Oftentimes people judge others because it makes them feel better about themselves.  There are much healthier ways to feel good about yourself than to put others down.

3.  Is whatever you are judging him or her for any worse than anything you’ve ever done? Before you can take the sand out of the other person’s eye, you should remove the plank from your own eye.  Surely there are things about you they don’t like, as well.  Don’t get too full of yourself.

4.  How would you like to be judged for a similar characteristic or action? People are all unique and have vastly different personality characteristics.  Just because someone’s personality doesn’t click with you does not mean they deserve to be judged by you.

Think long and hard about yourself before you try to judge others.