There are several issues to deal with when answering this seemingly simple question. Make sure you know all of the facts and consider all of the options before you decide to confront him about it. Here are some things to consider:

1. What are your boyfriend’s intentions in talking to his ex? If your boyfriend is just talking to his ex because they are still friends, it may be fine. If your boyfriend is talking to his ex and still has feelings for her, he is not being fair to you and your relationship. If your boyfriend is having conversations with his ex to resolve old relationship issues, maybe he’s not ready to have moved on to you already.

2. Is your boyfriend trustworthy? If your boyfriend talking to his ex bothers you a lot, you may want to examine other areas of your relationship where you do not trust him. Trust is crucial in relationships, and if you feel like you can’t trust him, maybe you should not be together. If you do trust him, surely you can discuss this issue with him and feel quite resolved.

3. How would you feel if your boyfriend were upset that you were talking to your ex? Your answer to this question could be that you would stop talking to your ex out of respect for your boyfriend. You may, though, think your boyfriend is being ridiculous and continue talking to your ex. Think about what you would do and what he is doing before you start judging him.

Openness, honesty, and good communication are always forces that help drive a healthy relationship. If these qualities are non-existent in your relationship, you should probably clear that up, and it might erase other problems, like being concerned if your boyfriend talks to his ex.

Your boyfriend probably had some female friends before you started dating him who would be pretty put out if they lost a friend just because he got a girlfriend.  Shutting people out of your life just because you start dating someone is not healthy.  A completely exclusive relationship hurts the people on the outside of it.  Maybe if you spent more time with his female friends, you would feel better about him hanging out with them.  You could even acquire new friends for yourself.

Your boyfriend does need to be careful with his female friends.  If he is not careful, he may start developing feelings for them and thus hurt his relationship with you.  Make sure you guys are open with one another about your external relationships.  You may want to help him set up parameters like not being alone with other girls or cutting back on flirting or touching other girls.  If he is sneaking around with other girls and not telling you that he is spending time with them, he is probably up to no good.  As long as he is open and honest, everything should be okay.  Do you trust him?  If not, you need to delve into those deeper issues and solve them from their core rather than just worrying about him spending time with girls.

How would you feel if your boyfriend didn’t let you have other male friends?  He would seem really controlling, right?  Although you may be attracted to the feeling of control over your boyfriend’s life, that is probably not the healthiest way to go about having your relationship.  A healthy relationship includes trust, honesty, communication, respect, and caring.  Worry about working on those things rather than worrying about your boyfriend’s female friends.

Kissing anyone can be dangerous.  Kissing is addictive and can lead to other things, as well.  Once you have kissed a person, you can’t take it back.  Some things to consider before you decide whether or not to kiss your friend are as follows:

1.  Would you be okay losing this friend? Kissing a friend sometimes ends in loss of said friendship.  Things can get awkward fast, especially if you are trying to keep things a secret.  Make sure you weigh the benefits against the risks.

2.  What is your intention in kissing this friend? If you are just looking for a quick hook up that feels nice, it might not be worth losing that friend.  Are you actually pursuing a relationship?  Remember that even relationships can harm a friendship.

3.  How does this friend feel about you? Kissing is a two-way street.  Forcing it is never a good idea.  But maybe you’re both into each other and your friendship was just a stepping stone to a healthy dating relationship.

Make sure you weigh the consequences before you kiss your friend.  You may be able to go on being friends, but there is a chance that you will end up doing more than you bargained for or that you could lose this friend forever.

Yes, it is okay to cry!  We have tear ducts for a reason!  It can be extremely healthy to release some tears every once in a while.  While people feel it is okay to cry over breakups, at funerals, or when their dog dies, it is also perfectly normal to cry in other situations.  Tears of sadness, anger, or joy can be quite the relief when you are overcome with emotion.

It’s okay for guys to cry, too.  Guys are capable of broken hearts and hurt feelings just like girls are.  It is more harmful to be fake than to just let go and let those emotions out.  Bottling up emotions can be damaging.  Don’t be ashamed of crying.  It’s perfectly natural and healthy in small doses.

If you are crying constantly and just can’t stop, talk to someone: a guidance counselor, therapist, pastor, etc.  Don’t cry your life away; get some help!

Here are a few things to think about before you decide to call a guy:

1.  Guys typically prefer to be initiators.  Guys are hardwired to feel the need to initiate things and don’t like feeling inferior to others.  Manliness is a great characteristic in a guy, and if he’s a real man, he will face his fear of calling you, if that is his issue.

2.  Did he give you his number? Girls are excellent at twisting the words and actions of guys to our favor.  Make sure you aren’t assuming anything about him.  If he gave you his number, he probably won’t mind if you give him a ring.

3.  Does he have your phone number? If has has your number, he has every capability to call you if he wants to.  Guys tend to take their time getting around to things, so be patient.  It’s better not to rush things or assume things.  If he doesn’t have your number, give it to him!  He should get the hint.

4. Are you calling him 9 times for every 1 time he calls you? It’s probably better to have a more balanced phone relationship than that.  Don’t be overbearing!  It’s a huge turnoff to most guys.

Take into consideration his intentions and yours before you decide anything.  It is way more fun to be pursued than to pursue! Is he just a friend? By all means, call that guy!

Yes, it is okay to be single! You do not need any other person to give you your worth. Being single removes all the stress of romantic relationships from your life. Look around, how many girls are constantly being hurt by boys or stressing out over what their boyfriend is doing or what he thinks of them?  Being single gives you the freedom to do what you want to do when you want to do it.  There is no obligation to tag along with some boy or to have him tagging along with you all of the time.  Singleness allows you to focus on the important things in life without distraction.  You’ll likely make better grades, do better at sports, maintain healthier friendships, and be a more productive member of society if you are not constatly focused on some boy.  While it may seem like everyone around you is dating someone, chances are you are blowing that out of proportion. While you may not have a significant other, you are not alone! Enjoy the freedom while you can.  Be single and love it!

Breakups are hard.  While it may seem easier to use the phone as a barrier to make the breaking up easier, you need to think about the implications of your decision to break up over the phone before you make it.

1.  Nonverbal communication is lost over the phone. Most of communication is nonverbal.  You will not be able to tell how your significant other is taking the things you are saying if you cannot see their physical reactions.  This can cause you to say things that aren’t relevant to his or her current feelings making the breakup more awkward than necessary.  Body language is key in knowing what to say next.

2.  Refusing face to face interaction is a sign of weakness.  It will show much more strength on your part if you can face your significant other.  He or she may see your emotions more clearly, but it will be a much more honest interaction than a phone conversation.

3.  Your significant other deserves the respect to be heard AND seen. You have taken the time and energy to date this person, mostly in person, I would assume.  Even though you are breaking up with him or her, he or she is still a person which means he or she deserves respect.  Hear him out.  Look her in the eyes.  It will likely be easier to face this person later if you have faced them during the breakup.

Taking the easy way out will not get you very far in life.  Yes, it might be easier to break up over the phone, but do yourself and your significant other a favor and tell him or her to his or her face!

It is okay to be friends with your ex. It is, however, not easy.

Depending on your reason for breaking up and how long you dated, maintaining a friendship with your ex can be almost impossible.  People often hook up with their ex even after they break up if they decide to remain friends. Be careful! Honesty is key, here. Talk about your feelings and make decisions together. It may be awkward, but it could be well worth the effort to remain friends after you break up.  After all, there are things you really like about this person; otherwise, you wouldn’t have dated them!

Your ex probably knows you pretty well, so it would be hard to just drop him or her like a bad habit.  However, if you stay just as close as you were while you were dating, it may seem like you haven’t even broken up.  Keeping your distance physically, emotionally, and mentally post breakup is a good idea, but don’t run so far away that you can’t remain friends, if that is your intention. Good luck!

Yes!  Being a virgin is perfectly okay.  Sex is addictive, and addictive behaviors are generally bad.  If you are a virgin, chances are, you don’t have a sexually transmitted disease.  You haven’t had an unwanted pregnancy.  You’ve never had an abortion.  You have never been raped.  These are all good things, very okay!  I would rather be a virgin than have herpes any day!

You may be ridiculed by your sexually active friends for being a virgin, but a little ridicule is better than a lot of shame for sleeping with the wrong person or contracting a disease from a one night stand or ex-boyfriend.  If you are concerned with being inexperienced when you become sexually active, don’t worry, you have the rest of your life to gain experience.  It is a privilege to still carry your V-card, so carry it proudly!  It is okay to be a virgin!

This is a matter of personal preference.  Some girls shave their pubic hair, some girls don’t.  There are some advantages and disadvantages to each option.

Some advantages for shaving your pubic hair would be the sexual appeal of smoothness and hiding the embarassment of stray hairs poking out of that cute new bikini you got for your beach trip this summer.  There are also hygiene issues.  If your pubic hair is too long, discharge can get clumped up down there, which is just not clean.

Some disadvantages for shaving down there are razorburn and ingrown hairs.  These can be very uncomfortable- itchy and even painful.  Ingrown hairs can even get infected which can cause even more health complications.  It is also important to be very careful when taking a razor to such a sensitive area.  A cut near your nether regions is uncomfortable at the least and can be embarassing if it breaks back open and bleeds all over your pants.  If you do not stay on top of shaving down there, the growing back stage can be very uncomfortable-super itchy.

There are other options available.  Waxing is a relatively safe alternative but best done by a professional.  A happy medium between shaving and not shaving could be trimming. Whatever you choose to do about this should be well thought out.  Consider the consequences before take a razor to your pubic hair!